Don’t Forget About Your Wife
My two goals in life are to be a good father and a good husband. A sub-goal is to do both at the same time. This seems like a fairly obvious statement for any man, but understanding isn’t the same as execution. As previously mentioned, I recently (two months ago) became a father to a little man named Lincoln. In the last two months my wife and I have been doing everything we can to make sure the little guy is as happy as possible as often as possible.
I’ve been incredibly fortunate to have my wife at home to take care of Lincoln, our home, and sometimes even me. She’s been nothing less than impressive when it comes to getting everything done on top of being a mother and a wife. She lets me sleep at night so that I can be functional at work the next day, even if she’s up every hour. She plans all of our meals and gets all of the groceries. She keeps the house clean and organized, which is a much bigger task when living with a newborn (and with me). Basically, I married a superhero.
Here’s where things start to slip. I’m working and focussing on supporting the family financially during the day, and then at night I try to spend some quality time to fulfill the emotional responsibilities of being a father and a husband. What I tend to forget about are all of the other things that need to be done, and the fact the my wife is doing almost all of it. Sometimes my idiot engine turns on and I feel a sense of entitlement saying, “You worked all day, put your feet up.”
Newsflash: When you have a family, there’s always something to be done.
I’m not saying that we don’t deserve to put our feet up from time to time, but let’s take a second to think about what little things we could do to make our wive’s lives easier. Here are a few ideas that I plan on using more often:
- Change out the laundry
- Wash the dishes
- Put the dishes away
- Prep for dinner (or cook dinner)
- Tidy up (throw things away or put things away)
- Bring her a snack
- Take out the garbage
- Watch the baby to let her sleep
- Surprise her with something she wants for herself
- Surprise her with something she wants for the baby
- Take care of the pets
- Write her a nice note letting her know how much I appreciate her
- Come up with meal ideas for the week
- Plan a date night
- Sacrifice my lunch break to help her out
I’m sure there are a million other things I could be doing to make her life easier, and I hope they come to me later. What you’ll notice about that list is most of the items on it don’t take a lot of time to do. But when you think about how hard it is for her to do – while holding a baby who could be crying – you might understand why she will really appreciate it.
In Short: Don’t EVER let your wife move down on your priority list.